Joanne is a happily married woman with two young children, she is about to turn 40 and feels life is passing her by. She has just spent two years at home looking after the children and her mother. Her mother is very active and independent, but she says she feels guilty leaving her alone too much and her children also.

Joanne read and completed disclaimer form, everything fine in this area, is not on any form of medication or medical treatment. Type of treatment for this case: CER procedure and counselling:

Joanne has an idea for a small business venture (which is very good) but would take a lot of her time up, also initially she would have to invest a certain amount of money. As she is a very cautious woman, this is also a source of worry for her. Her husband is encouraging her all the way, and offered to help with the children, as has her mother. Yet even with this she is still finding obstacles, it was obvious that Joanne was creating avoidance tactics to mask her fear of failure and lack of confidence I didn’t say that to her at this time as I felt it would be more meaningful to her counselling session.

I decided to work first on the two issues that the CER procedure would address.

1. Fear of failure.
2. Lack of confidence (stemming from reaching the age of 40).

She decided on her focus phrase as Failure feelings. The most recent being this morning

R.A.R.P: "I accept myself completely and I am now willing to let go of these Friday Failure Feelings and all their uncomfortable limiting effects." three times. Yawned without effort. M.I.L was at 10, first round of tapping reduced to 8. She repeated the R.A.R.P again. Two further rounds of tapping, she was down to 5. Three more rounds and she reduced to 0 (zero). She did the invoicing procedure, palms over ears, "I have now let go of these Friday Failure Feelings forever, on all levels of my being and through all times past, present and future." three times.

We then did the same procedure for Friday Lack Of Confidence Feelings. Her problem here reduced almost immediately, M.I.L was at 8. First round of tapping reduced to 6, two further rounds M.I.L was at 0(zero). She done invoicing again 3 times and the tummy rub.

Length of CER session: 1 Hour:
Counselling session: 60 minutes:

I started off by asking Joanne how she felt about CER procedure, she said right now she felt very confident. I got her to talk about her business venture, leaving her children and mother for long periods. She admitted being a perfectionist and liked to be in control of her affairs. She basically didn’t trust anybody but herself to run her home. On probing further she disclosed that her mother, whom she loved deeply hadn’t been that attentive or particular when she and her siblings were children, and wanted more for her own.

This brought up another issue, Lack Of Trust Feelings. I asked her if she wanted to use CER to address this and she was quite eager. Using the exact same procedure as for Friday Failure Feelings, we used Friday Lack Of Trust Feelings. Done R.A.R.P x 3, measured M.I.L, was definitely 10, This reduced quite fast. Done three rounds of tapping was at 7. Three further rounds M.I.L was at 0 (zero). Finished with invoicing procedure by 3 and tummy rub.

Joanne said she felt a lot more relaxed now and thought maybe she had been over reacting. She also said she was afraid of failure if this venture didn’t work. I asked her why, and she said she couldn’t deal with the embarrassment if she failed, and would feel guilty about financial investment involved. I told her that if she looked at this from another viewpoint, that there really is no such thing as failure, only learning and gaining knowledge. I explained to her, if she left this until her children were teenagers, she would be even less confident. The venture itself is quite good, so she has more of a chance of success if approached properly with right attitude. I also told her that in six or seven years she could have a successful business running and all the hard work done by then. On the other hand if she left it, she would always be wondering, “what if”

All this made perfect sense to her, she had been vaguely thinking these thoughts herself, but hearing them from someone else now reassured her greatly. She was very impressed with the complete session and said she was going to make a decision over the weekend one way or another, and she also felt her mind was now clearer.

Length of session 1 hour:

I spoke with Joanne informally on Thursday 24th July 2008. She has gone ahead with her business venture and has put things in motion. She has come up with a plan to minimize her absence from her children and is quite content to allow her mother and husband to help out. She is now looking forward to her new venture and challenges involved. She knows any hurdles are just issues to be resolved and this will give her a sense of achievement. She is no longer in the grip of feelings of lack of confidence or failure and is much more trusting of people.

She assured me she would be in contact again.

Dexter.